A breakup is without a doubt one of the hardest things you can go through. It doesn’t matter whether you broke up amicably and have decided to stay friends, or you had an explosive argument and vowed never to see each other again— going your separate ways can be overwhelming and heart-wrenching.
Many psychologists even compare a breakup to a death! While there may not be any funerals involved, it’s certainly the death of something that once was, and that can be just as devastating.
The good news is that you cannot only make it to the other side, but you can come out even stronger than you were before. To help you, here are some of the best tips for handling a breakup gracefully.
Keep Yourself Busy
When you’re going through something difficult like a breakup, you may see it as a “break-down” but the truth is that it’s an opportunity for growth. Focus on keeping yourself busy doing things that bring you joy and personal advancement.
Perhaps it’s taking an art class or continuing your education. Instead of allowing yourself to wallow in bed and cry over romcom movies, get up and get active. The more you can keep your brain busy, the faster the healing will occur. Remember, this is a new beginning, not an end.
Seek Love From Friends and Family
Remember, even though one relationship ended doesn’t mean every relationship has. Remind yourself that you are loved and surrounded with support by reaching out to the people you care about.
Whether it’s a phone call or an in-person meeting, make time for seeking support. Reach out to the people that love you and share your feelings. The more you harbor everything inside, the longer it will take you to move on. Surrounding yourself with your network will pull you up and offer encouragement and comfort when you need it most.
Take Care of Yourself
It’s critical that you take care of yourself during this hard time. We get it— sometimes it can be hard even to get out of bed, so putting on makeup or putting any sort of outfit together that involves more than sweatpants can feel like a monumental task. However, self-care is essential for rebuilding your life. Remember, self-care comes in many forms, not just getting dressed and putting on makeup. Self-care also means getting enough sleep and filling yourself full of nutritious foods. Even though it can be hard to imagine eating anything right now, remember, you need it to function your best.
While you’re at it, nourish your brain. Read plenty of self-help books and watch movies that inspire you. Taking care of yourself is a must during a difficult experience like a breakup.